Talking Back
Yep, it's annoying but studies show that when teens push back, they're asserting independence, developing critical thinking, and feel safe enough to express themselves.
Tip: Try to encourage respectful debate by asking, "Tell me why you thing that?"
Taking Risks
From questionable fashion choices to impulsive decisions, risk-taking is part of how their brains develop. Studies show it helps them explore new experiences, build resilience, and refine their decision making skills.
Tip: Try asking, "What do you think might go wrong?" instead of, "That's a terrible idea."
Negotiating Rules Like a Lawyer
If it feels like you're raising a tiny lawyer, you probably are! They're learning to speak up and think critically.
Tip: Give them some say in the rules. Teens who feel heard are more likely to respect boundaries.
Rolling Their Eyes at Your Advice
They're not rejecting you, they're trying to figure things out for themselves. That's how wisdom is built. It's so hard not to jump in, but teens need space to test their own ideas. That's how they grow into capable adults.
Tip: Ask, "What do you think will happen if you try it your way?"
Spending Forever on Their Hair and Clothes
This one may drive you wild, but this is how they explore identity and confidence. Even if their style isn't your favorite.
Tip: Compliment their style or ask about a trend they like. Little moments build big trust. You could even ask for fashion advice.
So if your teen seems hard to reach today, take a breath! You're not failing. You're raising a real, growing human and that's brave work!
